is there such a thing as a moment of grace, which can lead to a spiritual awakening and growth?
can someone overcome horrendous obstacles and lead a life of honesty, integrity, loyalty and honor?
I believe the answer to all three questions is a resounding YES, but before anything can happen the person in question has to truly hit a bottom - sometimes losing everything, including spouse and family - before change actually happens.
Don't stop her from hitting her bottom.
Don't create a crisis, but don't interfere with her process.
Protect yourself and your children.
Lose the idea that this is currently a viable marriage.
What you had is over.
What's to come is unwritten at this time.
What you have is the present. Treat it as the gift it is. Dig deep, document, and work to make FM the best father, friend, son, brother and person you can be. The rest will follow as it's supposed to.
