Even if you manage to shock her into something short term, it will only be temporary.
OM to a wayward is just like alcohol to an alcoholic, or drugs to an addict. She might go a few days, maybe a week, and then she will crack.
If she doesn’t realise what she has lost and WANT to be with you (without being forced), it’s not going to work.
DB is about concentrating on you, getting counselling, being busy and getting a life, learning about yourself, and becoming a better person … and if they wake up and realise what they’ve lost, then maybe… just MAYBE, you might be able to reconcile in a few years.
If you can’t be around her any more, then tell her you don’t want to be with her any more, and separate.
DB is NOT about ultimatums, arm twisting, threats and blackmail.
