LH-I understood what you meant. I’m not ready to end it, yet. Thus, no ultimatum. I didn’t do it right the first time. I only said nc with him. She immediately wanted to come home and “work on things”. I should have done as you said and included mc, working on marriage, and new job.
Mikey P my situation is muck like yours accept I moved (before I found this site). I ended up going home before she was ready mainly because of the holidays. She half arsed it for a year and a half before she found om#2. I survived but when I was living it the nights were long. I thought she would magically find her way back to me. WWs are the most methodical creatures on this earth. I get why no ultimatum I really do. What I want you to work towards is understanding her behavior no matter how warranted (in her mind) is unacceptable and should never be tolerated by you in the future. People need boundaries and deal breakers and have to be willing to walk when broken. Baby steps my friend. You will get there.
