I've definitely backed way off. Trying to "drop the rope".
If you recall, we were supposed to have a marriage counseling session today to discuss what a "break" looks like. Yesterday, I did this instead and was our exchange:
Me: "I just wanted to let you know I've decided not go to the counseling session tomorrow if you want to let XXX know. We don't need another meeting to discuss a break. I feel like counseling has just been more pressure for you. I feel I already have made what I want very clear these past few months and there just isn't a reason for us to go any longer for now. I want to respect what you said about feeling done with the relationship."
W: "Ok, I still may go."
Me: "That's fine. You can go on your own tomorrow to get some advice if you think that might be helpful"
We haven't talked much. We had an event/concert yesterday for our D11 so there was a little exchange but not tons.
She has also been offering me food that she has been making. She also offered to pick me up something along with what she was for my daughter when she was out and about. I have been politely declining as I've been doing my own thing in the food/diet arena (we pretty much always have anyways).
I have also backed off on doing dishes/emptying dishwasher. I haven't had any of my own dishes so they have all been hers from cooking, etc.
This morning I saw her doing the dishes, emptying the dishwasher, and it made me realize she hadn't had to do any of that for a long time since the BD.
I've just been focusing on my daughter and doing things for her.
