SO, after a few years here, I finally found another book, besides DB that hit the nail on the head..
No More Mr Nice Guy, by Dr Glover.
This book, which I am half way through as I write, is incredible. It hits home hard. It describes me to a "T".
I cant go into details just yet, but if you can find it in yourself to get this book, you may find out why you are Mr Nice guy. Really not what you think it is.
I am not a writer, and I will need to read this 2 to 3 times, to truly grasp it. But so far, it is an awakening for me.
It goes into great deal how your relationship with Mom n Dad , society, and world events have shaped men in the last century.. Darn good book..