Coming on this forum and going to counseling was so unlike me, very uncomfortable. Glad I did though, this site has been more helpful than I could have imagined.
I found this site back in 2008. Definitely a life changing event. One other thing I found very helpful was identifying one or two IRL close male friends that I could discuss marriage/personal issues with.
If you stay focused on your changes, your R with your spouse is forced to change because you are interacting with her different.
