Wasn’t planning on writing this much, but one last thing. W posted some pictures from Saturday at the casino on Instagram that D18 showed me because several of her friends reached out asking if her mom was okay. (Some of D18’s friends follow W on there). She was flipping off the camera in one and dressed in a practically see through shirt in another and just generally looking like someone going through some sh!t. D18 was pretty much in tears from the embarrassment and asking why her mom was acting like a teenager. It was sad having to comfort her about this, but I just told her that she can’t control the image that W is projecting to the world, that she has every right to feel embarrassed by it, and that her mom will hopefully work her way through it eventually. I wish W understood the hurt she is causing.
Good job with D18. However why not also encourage her to tell her mom how she feels? D is an adult. Sure still maturing but she needs to express her feelings to her mom. There are consequences to our actions and W is so far escaping many of them. I’m not claiming it will change Ws behavior but it’s a great learning lesson for D to speak up for herself. Might be a good lesson for you as well.
