Ok this is concrete and I think you men can help me and poke holes where I am not hitting the mark.
Earn and gain respect: 1. Be decisive. Don’t ask permission (except of course respect boundaries consent rights etc). Act get it done. Make a plan and do it well. 2. Stop begging or pleading. Don’t offer or accept cheap efforts at intimacy or being second fiddle. 3. Be confident 4. Have some strong friends and be a strong friend. 5. Don’t show off or be childish. 6. Take responsibility and be accountable. 7. Don’t try to nice a woman into liking you. 8. Have goals. Plot a course, prepare well, navigate effectively and invite a woman into that. 9. Respond don’t react. Be emotionally safe. 10. Stand up for yourself. Show people how to treat you.
This is off the top of my head. Please provide input and even examples from your growth if you like.
Maybe this will help more....and this is what worked for me...
1-Am I able to listen to others without judgement 2-Am I honest 3-Do I show kindness 4-Do I show compassion 5-Am I able to lead without being controlling 6-Am I able to inspire others to reach their goals 7-Am I strong while having the ability to be vulnerable 8-Am I able to encourage without manipulating 9-Do I show empathy without being condescending 10-Am I ready to give all of that above, without the expectation of receiving it in return
Bonus track...
11-IF my spouse were to want to work on this marriage today, AM I READY , so that I am NOT right back here in 6 months...
IF you are able to show those things consistently, every day, it becomes a part of who you are, and until you know that, how can you be anything for anyone else ?
