Rockon, I and tell you that you are very fortunate to be on this forum. The advice you are getting is tested and time proven.. I wish I had this forum years ago.. My Ex did pretty much all of the things in here recommended, and it worked on me. Now, once i woke up, I am implementing things on here. My advice is nothing compared to what others have stated. Just keep doing what you are doing, and all will be well... She made her decisions, lied, cheated and if let back in, she knows she can do it again.. Thats my harsh feelings but I do believe it. You have been improving yourself, that is critical to your self being, and for your kids. She is the one making her decisions, she is in control of them.. I wish you the best and will continue to follow this thread..
BTW,, I am far behind where you are as I took way to long to move on, gal etc.. But, with this forum and members here I will succeed also..