So your w is well. She feels like she is living her life for herself right now. Nobody likes pain and sadness and we are trying to tell you that letting your w go is the quickest way out of it. It is normal to feel discarded like a piece of trash.
So what I’m looking for is more of your fears. What is keeping you from saying “W I love you and want you to be happy so I will let you go find your happiness. “
For me it was what would happen to my kids. I had never lived alone up to that point. Did I have enough money to survive? Would I be sitting in a rocking chair on my porch alone in the end?