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Wow, hon, I’m so sorry the rose colored glasses had to be shattered so violently. Some thoughts for you:
It’s not your fault you were deceived by a sociopath. Not just an addict (yes, there are sex addicts) but a sociopath who was capable of lying to you day in day out throughout your marriage without empathy for the fact that you deserved better.
Don’t talk to your stbxh about this. Give this information to your lawyer. Let the lawyers do their jobs. If you haven’t done so already, make sure you have copies of all financial accounts. Review old credit card statements. Get a credit report. Tell your lawyer you want every penny you’re entitled to - lord knows what he spent on his “hobbies”. You don’t need to speak to him or see him again and I suggest you don’t.
As others have said, H’s friend who told you this is not really your friend. While it’s admirable that he finally came forward, it’s creepy that he knew this for years but kept the “bro code”. Keep your distance.
HE may have been an illusionist, but the love YOU gave in the marriage was real. Be proud of that.
