Thank you LH, DnJ, Ginger, Bttrfly and BL42 for sharing your opinions.

Originally Posted by LH19
It was my attempt to say that three years later you are doing the same thing expecting different results. Also known as the definition of insanity.
For what it's still worth, it was this sentence that hit me really hard.

Originally Posted by LH19
One of my favorite quotes fits here "you can ignore reality but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality".
Not this one. Taking into account that written language can sometimes hit a lot harder. And after what I've been through with EXH the last few months, I couldn't have this yesterday.

Originally Posted by LH19
I have been through the pain you have and don't want to see you going through it over and over. I hope you find peace.
Originally Posted by LH19
Eagle I apologize again I just get frustrated when I see good people like yourself abused by these blood sucking leaches and destroy perfectly good families. If I saw your STBXH I would like to kick him in the nuts. Definitely not a metaphor lol.
I’m more fond of the above two statements LH. Thank you for that 😊

As Bttrfly and DnJ stated, yes, I did everything I could to keep my family together, to help my EXH in any way I could. Remember, MLC is a different kind of animal to deal with, and my EXH couldn't be the more typical MLC’er out there. For many of you this is not important, for me this has been crucial.
But the main thing is that in the meantime I have not forgotten to continue living and to further develop my own life together with the children, and this without EXH.

Already two years ago I started to go out with friends again, contacted old friends and expanded these friendships again, started to do sports, went on trips with the children and with friends, etc.

In the meantime I'm divorced, I'm selling our home and I'm looking to buy something new. And yes, I'm looking forward to it, to finally have a place of my own where I can build new memories with my children while their still teenagers.

That is why it is now easier for me to switch quickly, because everything is almost arranged now.

Would I have handled it differently if I had known beforehand what would happen in those 3 years, I most probably wouldn’t. I have also learned a lot about myself. Learned to have patience, to be able to be forgiving and compassionate, even in the most difficult circumstances and last but not least, the lesson that was the hardest for me to learn, is not to avoid the conflict when being walked over and ignore a person when their behavior is total unreasonable. That was a very difficult step for me.

EXH occasionally sends messages in a very short and rude manner. I hold my ground and refuse to answer. He will eventually stop it I guess, if he doesn't, then so be it.

Originally Posted by BL42
Murray's character is a pompous jerk to those people he interacts with, including his (female) co-worker. He gets stuck in this small town where he relives the same exact day over and over and over again. However, over time HE changes. He learns to take an interest in and care for others (his friend the insurance salesman, saves the kid from the tree, feeds the homeless man), he works to improve himself (takes piano lessons, reads poetry, learns the heimlich...etc.), becomes a better man and only then ends up attracting his love interest.
So, if I read it right, even Murray wasn’t stuck forever. He eventually learns to move forward?