I respectfully disagree. It's just my opinion but it feels like Ground Hog's day on this thread.
Originally Posted by LH19
Eagle, Ground Hogs day is a movie where a guy wakes up and lives the same day every day without anything changing. It was my attempt to say that three years later you are doing the same thing expecting different results. Also known as the definition of insanity. One of my favorite quotes fits here "you can ignore reality but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality".
LH, Can I honestly ask you what is respectful about this reply?
You literally call me an insane person.
Either I misunderstand or I am actually reading it correctly and you are simply out to hurt me deeply. Well, I can honestly tell you that you succeeded.
To be clear, if I had been stuck for 3 years, I wouldn't be divorced today (remember, this takes a few months in the best case) and our house wouldn't be for sale. Everything, absolutely everything, was in my hands in regards to this.
The only thing I didn't do was give him up on him emotionally, for 3 years I picked him up when he fell hard. And yes, that was wrong, but if you have shared your life with someone for 18 years, it is very difficult to let that person down. Like DnJ said, he keeps coming back, and I've allowed this. Only the last time he came back (this was 2 months ago) he said that he did not come back to save our M, but because he was so stuck and needed a safe place to land. His actions and words the first weeks told the opposite, however, in the last weeks a complete turnaround (wanting back to OW2, expression of aggression, etc.) which made me realize that I have done enough for him.
Mentally I have made the right decisions, emotionally until recently not. Yes, that was because I loved him deeply.
Sorry LH, I'm really blown away by your response. You may talk to each other that way, but in my culture this is not the way to threat people. I may be the only one on this forum who thinks this is wrong, so be it.
But luckily most of the people who I got to know over the past year have proofed otherwise.
