I replied that I was available Saturday but I was looking for more than a hook up. When he got back to me the next day he stated no one said anything about a hook up and that me wanted to make me cum multiple times.
So in pilot fantasy camp it's not a hook up if you have multiple orgasms lol.
Originally Posted by KitCat
NOW - I get it. We've dated before, but we've only been on 2 dates. While I'm wildly attracted to him and have had a very sexual relationship before, I'm just moving more cautiously. I don't want to screw this up. You know from my past posts that I have no issue being wild and daring. I've sent him plenty of visual texts in the past, etc.
This is why he thinks a hook up is no big deal! He's probably confused as fuch right now.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I let him know I did not want to say "no" to his offer but that I was looking for more. For an example I just stated I'd like to know what the weirdest part of his week was or what kind of goals for summer time. This was a very poorly worded text trying to hide my insecurities... that while I truly desired him I just wasn't at the next step.
What insecurities are you hiding?
Originally Posted by KitCat
After coming home from a long week he took that to mean I could not have sex unless I asked him 50 questions? and that he had no interest in that if someone could not be willing to show up with a drink naked when he first got home and wait 24hr before questions.
Does this guy by chance wear a robe?
Originally Posted by KitCat
Whoa... I totally get that. That was not my intent at all.
Well how many questions does he have to answer?
Originally Posted by KitCat
I tried apologizing for miscommunicating and just wanted to say that his expectation was not unreasonable and I had no qualms with that. I was just trying to say I was not quite ready for sex.
How about yo dueche bag I am not a whore and am not going to come fuch your brains out no matter how many organisms you give me?
Originally Posted by KitCat
Trying to lighten the mood a little and to let him know I was interested I sent two explicit photos (nothing that I haven't sent before.)
So do you see why he treats you this way?
Originally Posted by KitCat
I totally get how that is a complete mixed message. I was never saying no to sex. I wasn't even saying I needed 4 months. We had only been out twice since he got back in touch with me. H3ll I didn't sleep with him the last time until the 4th date. Frankly, if I hadn't felt pressure I may very well have slept with him on the 3rd date but in general I don't have sex until 3 dates. I guess the rules may be different when its someone you dated before???
Sleep with a man when you feel safe and comfortable that he is not using you for sex
Originally Posted by KitCat
His response was that he was not interested in a crazy train.
Sounds like you are not a match.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I clearly had no problem having sex with him while I was going through a divorce and suddenly I'm not ready for sex.
oh yeah. This makes sense to me.
Originally Posted by KitCat
He has a lot on his plate. If someone is interested in him its everything, wild sex and all or not. He is not into games.
no. Sleep with him or you are out.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Well, I'm not into games either. I was not asking him to wait months... I just wanted another date to get to know him again. But --- was I communicating that properly??? And, yes I'm 100% guilty of sending a mixed message. I will 100% admit I was dealing my insecurities - the D hit hard on my self esteem. I'm soon to be 53 and body image is always a woman's achilie's heel.
This guy is not going to be any good for your self esteem.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I feel that if we just talked - rather than I text... then he texts the next day... and then its 24hr before I text back, that this could have been resolved in a 5min conversation. I really like him... I was attracted to him a year ago and I'm attracted to him now..
You are a booty call. Nothing more.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Instead I have to accept that I may not hear from him again.
Unless you sleep with him.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I'm just frustrated...
Time to ditch the dueche bags in your life so you can be open to something real.
