Boy I read your story and I can feel the pain in your writings and am really sorry what you are going through. The first thing I would like to point out to you is that you can’t control him. You can’t make him get his own place and the more you try to the more he is going to rebel. The more you try to break them apart the more you are going to push them together. Unfortunately in these situations the WS usually comes around after the LBS moves on. If you are willing to wait years sometimes as long as 7 in MLC then if your marriage was as solid as you say odds are he will come around. Until then you need to protect yourself emotionally and financially and distance yourself from the wreckage. Time and space are your two best friends.
