Yes, do not read into H’s actions. His offer to shovel, and until he does it, it’s still just an offer, is likely his guilt pressing upon him.
Originally Posted by Stella20
Mad at him for being so f-ing stupid, mad at him for not being a stronger person and standing for our M and believing in us, for not facing his issues, for blaming everything on me. Mad at him as I think about all of the lies and deceit from the last 8 months. The way he treated me, all of it. And today is what???? he feels guilty about his actions, so he is finally gonna stop over and grace me with his presents...He is screwed up, this is his doing, not mine. I did nothing wrong, I did not break my vows. Yet here I am dealing with all of the Sh*t that he has caused, while his is out there living it up and partying like a rockstar with no care in the world.
Oh, MLCers excel at eliciting such emotions.
Just wait, he’ll want to be thanked for shovelling. Don’t blow your top.
And you don’t need to stay there. Take your dressed up self out for lunch or supper. Date yourself! He can shovel unattended.
Originally Posted by Stella20
He still hasn't really had or faced any consequences for his actions, only thing he has said is the he is upset because I get all the sympathy and he has to deal with the backlash everywhere he goes. Oh poor baby, when you flaunt you affair and run around like you are the new hot couple in town to all of our friends, while you are both still married, what did you expect?? A party, congrautlation on destroying and emotionally devastating your spouses?? Good job on fooling everyone…
He is following the script perfectly. Everything is about him. How it affects only him. MLCer’s have broken empathy chips.
Good for you letting it out. Visualize making room for something else. What you may ask?
