Hi, Stella. I am so sorry you are here, but as you have discovered this is a good place to be, full of people who understand what you’re going through and are here to listen and support you! I wanted to say this really resonated with me:
Originally Posted by Stella20
I have come to appreciate anything that calms me. Lighting candles, having a spa day at home, long hot showers, ocean sounds that I play to sleep to, holding my fur babies while they purr, and this site. Finding this site and all of you, has been a God send to me, like a shining light in the darkness. And good chocolate,... Anything to calm me and take my mind somewhere else.
I am so glad you are recognizing the things that calm you and bring you comfort and, as with your fur babies, remind you you are loved and worthy of love.
Hold on to these things and add to this list. So much of what got me through (and what still gets me through) waves of sadness or anger or whatever emotion felt overwhelming in the moment was to remember these other things also exist and, when they occur, to be present with them too. I would say maybe it’s not so much about taking the mind somewhere else but letting your mind and body rest right where it (also) is—in these good moments too, which exist along with the hard moments.
