I can only speak for myself - but here I am! I hang out on the Piecing board these days but here is the link to my thread which will lead you to the beginning if anyone is interested:
Rereading through the first chapter, I can see a fair amount of Tom in myself. Even though W and I are seeing a C jointly, I am the one who is the more active partner in trying to build a new marriage with W. Even though I am the one with the higher sex drive, it was W who firmly controlled the aspects of our sexual relationship and I felt for years that I had to blindly accept that since that was the only way W would have sex with me. I feel very much like that I have "nerves of steel" since W has been doing her upmost (consciously or unconsciously - don't know which) to set the table for me to have an affair. But I keep trying to stay true to my M - but I also never promised to take a vow of celibacy either.
Would my W actually read this book if I gave her a copy or left my out where she could see it? Doubt it very seriously - she's more focused on MLC books since I feel she can avoid any sense of introspection. I'll still buy the book anyway - I enjoy Michele's writing style and it will benefit me at some point in my life - whether it is with my W or with someone else.
Maybe I'll spring for a telephone consult while I'm at it...
P.S. - Hope that you and the family - and everyone in the DB universe - have a safe and Happy New Year!
I hang out on the Piecing board these days but here is the link to my thread which will lead you to the beginning if anyone is interested:
