Thanks for your reply. You are so right that marriage is about mutual caretaking. What I found is that, after years of feeling rejected, I became less and less interested in meeting my husband's needs. I felt sucked dry emotionally and incapable of caring for him in the way I knew I should. He, in turn, became even less motivated to meet my needs... and around and around we went.
So now we're stuck. He says in counseling, "I can't change, accept it." I say, "Well, I can't go back to our old relationship." How do you get past this type of impasse?
I guess I'll have to wait until your book hits the stands? Any advice would be appreciated.
