Thanks for posting the first chapter. You were right, I *did* feel a great deal of relief reading your description of what the "high desire" spouse thinks and feels.
I am a WAW. I left my H in mid-September because I was tired of feeling rejected, lonely, dismissed, and insecure in my marriage. The sad thing is that I really love my H, but my disappointment/sadness in our sex life (or lack thereof) over the years had grown to the point at which I was experiencing trouble sleeping, anxiety attacks and depression.
I'd talked to H about our sex life for years, but he never listened. He was always too tired, or I was being too pressuring.
When I had to start on meds to manage my feelings of despair and sadness, I knew something in our relationship had to change. So, I moved out. I hoped that by moving out, he would realize that I was *serious* when I said I was unhappy with our sex life.
We are now, as a result, going to marriage counseling weekly, but he still doesn't seem to understand how important this issue is to me. As I said in counseling, "I can get my emotional needs met through friendship, but sex? I can only get sex from H."
I love my H, but I've realized that I can't live like his room-mate for the rest of my life. I want a relationship in which there's emotional and physical intimacy. Right now, the hurt is running deep enough that I'm prepared to leave my H, if that's what it takes to be with someone who wants to have a healthy sex life (with me! ).
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