For those who will be unable to let go otherwise...it may be necessary.
...But Breton,
If MLC lasts an average of 2-7 years...2 being on the SHORT of that average...doesn't a one year afte bomb date seem unrealistic.
Given, it may be the date you need. But please do not expect him to turn around within that frame. What do you need by that time...small or large steps? Because when they begin returning it can be back to the rollercoaster as they retreat in fear and cycle.
But aren't you also looking at this in a negative way...don't most? I CAN'T do this for...
In the beginning this concerned me. I made a conscious decision that I would not give up my Stand. Now as a sidenote, I do believe this can be done with a twist...not give up the Stand until it is clear he will not return rather than until I cannot take it any longer.
To ensure that I stood by my promise to myself...and Sweetheart I sought hypnosis...through a therapist, and self-hypnosis through meditation and affirmations.
But to request mere strength in Standing is not enough. It will not guarantee your MLCer will return. Nothing will do that.
Yet there were additional benefits. I no longer concerned myself as much with time...Oh my concerns were there, hypnosis doesn't remove humanity. But this was not as frustrating an issue for me as it seems to be for most LBSs.
In not worrying about time, I protected myself from cycling toward high expectations with Sweetheart's in and outs. I have been mor relaxed and less fearful, and this has helped me in my responses and reactions.
Standing is a choice...rather than something you can or cannot do consider it is something you will or will not do.
It doesn't make it easy, but perhaps a personal strength in a Stand that is without concern for time can make it easier.
