Wow Michele. I thank you so much for posting this. My sitch is that my h has not been able to have ("normal"- penis-vagina sexual relationships with me due to a physiological reason)for the past 2 years. My H is not open to "untraditonal" ways of exploring and meeting both of our needs for a outlet of releasing sexual needs. And throw in MLC that greatly exacerbates this sexual issue for us is so very difficult......probably for my H and myself as well.Thanks for you post. I really appreciated it!