Giving yourself an ultimatum

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I think that you will probably question where you are going and where you have been many time before that and many times after.

Really what you are doing in setting this date is setting a time that you want to be reconcilled. That is not a good idea. In doing that you are putting a lot of pressue on yourself setting yourself up for failure. When that date comes and it hasn't happened, you will feel like you have failed to meet your goal.

You would be far better served to just be patient and let events come together naturally. If it is not going to happen by the holidays, setting a goal for it to happen or to assess where you are at does not change anything. It will only ruin your holidays because you felt like a failure because it didn't happen.