Cathy, I am glad that you are able to move beyond the painful feelings to see how this might be helpful in future relationships. When you say that you know you won't be sexually in sync all the time, you're right. In fact, the truth is, a desire gap isn't the exception, it's the norm. It's how people handle their differences that matter. Of course, DBers know this is true about everything in love. It's also true that fifty per cent of the population needs to work at feeling sexual desire, it doesn't just happen. So once again, love is a decision.
