I appreciated your post a lot, and I also felt for Holly. Two things to say: One, in the DB books, you can call it "games" or "truth" but acting "as if" is one suggestion of her book. So is being upbeat in front of the MLCers, in part to ease their guilt, in part to ease our pain(?). You could argue that those suggestions are not based on truth, and are manipulative. Or, that they are forms of giving the MLCer space...anyhow, the 2nd thing is that when I worked in the city, some homeless guy always spotted me at the subway and spewed weirdo venom specifically at me. I used to wonder if I was wearing something he hated, or reminded him of someone he hated...Mind you, this was the same homeless guy every day, living on a grill, that targetted me. What's really whacked out is that I actually ALLOWED HIS OPINION OF ME TO MATTER....I mean, wth?? Who cares what the guy on the grill thinks of me when he's insane, in withdrawal, and angry to boot?? Point is, there are other people in our lives who have no more insight into us, or our intrinsic worth, than the grill guy... We are worthy and deserving. Thanks for posting. j-
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