First things first: "I feel like I've failed the others on this board by not fighting this D..." That's a load of crap. Don't you EVER say this or even think it again. You have only been a source of inspiration and dignity and comfort to this BB. Knock that negative stuff off. Don't make me come over there!
OK. I think your T has a good point about him trying to impress. I also think that you made an interesting insight: that H is ACTING like the H and father you always wanted him to be. Until he does some major work on himself, this will always be an act. I hope for your kids' sake that one day it will be genuine, but I don't know how soon that can possibly be.
