God, I read your posts, and I just wish your H would have the sense to SHUT UP.
Seriously....just plead the 5th or something....getting a blank expression would be better.
It's so sadly ironic and just plain awful that the day they begin to engage in direct communication, it's nothing pleasant to hear AT ALL.
Your emotions are valid, honey. We would all feel that way.
But the facts are, he is not suddenly wonderful dad, in love and sane.
The conversation today proved just that. His total oblivion to what he has done has proved that.
Do you think, that with NO introspection and time out to sort through this, your H has suddenly overcome and changed his shortcomings? No.
You said it perfectly....you know how the beginning of Rs are - all fluffy and wonderful. All rainbows and unicorns.
He said it perfectly, too. Hanging out with OW and her kids a lot is EASY. That's what this is, Nicola, EASY. You, on the other hand, are HARD. B/c you are REAL.
He said it himself...OW's kids are just playmates to his kids when he has to be father to his kids. Again, they make his job as father EASY.
What man gripes that he cannot make out with his gf in front of kids? Only one that has admitted that is what he is after. A real man really in love would respect her and his children to not want to do that anyway. A real man would be more concerned with his kids and OW's kids transitioning to the new R, and how to make them comfortable with it.
Nope, not your H. B/c this is not real. He is not sane.
