Yep, you are flying solo. Telling him about your D probably just makes him feel guilty and we know what that means. Her reading and playing alone areound him may not be ideal, but it isn't destructive. Perhaps is you keep quiet about her he may respond more positively? Maybe in your role as "defender mom", he thinks you think he's incompetent and is rebeling against any feedback you give him. I know that when I backed off (granted my kids are older) from any feedback regarding H and our D's, their R seemed to improve. Just a thought.
