TabD, Thank you again for your nice reply! It is so nice to have someone reply to messages!
Well my XH IMed me, questioned my away message (he was concerned I was pregnant), and wanted to tell me, "that was also my segway to telling you that the answer to all of your questions was no but that doesn't mean you can't talk to me."
HE BROKE NC FIRST! Converstaion went on as follows... XH: I'm trying to be good XH but it didn't mean no to talking ot me XH: so, sorry about that XH: I was just saying it was no to everything else R2: that is okay. XH: I do think it's best that we keep distance XH: what I said about an emotional cost is 100% true XH: and for now XH: distance is what I need XH: chatting occasionally is cool XH: if you have a question or whatever, hit me up R2: understood. Sorry about the emotional cost thing though !:( XH: Hey, I'm surprised it's hitting me more than you XH: or I deal with it worse XH: either way XH: it is what it is XH: so XH: I have to run R2: XH: I have 11 minutes to deploy something company-wide R2: okay[ R2: well.... I am interested in this comment.. "I am suprised it is hitting me more than you. [XH take care R2: ...but I will let you go. XH: well, we'll chat later then XH: I'll ring ya or something R2: okay XH: byew R2: you know my number! R2: bye! R2: take care!
I am happy we are talking again... I am happy there is an emotional cost to him... and I am happy he is dealing with it worse.... all that being said why doesn't that make me feel any better?
I so badly want to have R with him. And I am not sure what exactly I will ask him about "I am surprised it is hitting me more than it is hitting you."
Any ideas?
I mean I don't want to launch into something that will push him away, but... I don't know... feedback or ideas of "safe" ways to talk about our marriage... or past relationship or the "morphing" of our relationship into something new/different or normal would be appreciated.
