Mermaid gave you great advice, the letter will only push him away. You can bully him into a decision.
Its been about 3.5 years for me and I am just now seeing my old W back. We ended up D in 12/05 and are now dating. She still doesn't know what she wants, but she came out a totalu different person in a good way.
The AD's will help, if it wasn't for them I don't think I could have handled a 16 month in home seperation.
Come to this board and you find all the support you need to get you through this.
