In addition to Bethie's post, I think posts by Happy and AmyC and others are very insightful to this end, as well.
As former MLCers, they admit that they often did one thing (often hurtful) and yet felt another, or were fighting off other feelings. Thus, giving opposite signals that the LBS could not figure out if they wanted to.
I have also often read AmyC post that there was no rhyme or reason, an that time and staying away were the only things you could do.
And, all of us here have experienced that....anything we attempt to figure out, interpret or anything ends up changed, the opposite of, or whatever.
