Bethie, I think this was a lovely, heartfelt post, and I am in awe that you had the courage to come over here and post it. It is well worth reading for so many on this forum, so many that get caught up in the daily drama of trying to read his signs and actions and figure out whether it's a baby step or not. This is very compelling and I hope many people on this forum take it to heart.
We all find ourselves here FOR A REASON and our focus needs to be on ourselves and what we are poised to learn and change about ourselves, not how we can cause some change in our wayward spouses.
