Yes, this is serious R. Hitting is NOT OK, no matter WHAT you did!
Well, I can't pretend to be terribly worldly, but I hope there is no culture on this earth that believes that the statement RBL wrote is untrue.
Ok, in NO CULTURE in the world should domestic violence be tolerated! It is one of those universal truths similar to child-abuse being wrong and murder being wrong among other things.
So WHAT does a woman do in r's case. My friend recently had a DV incident in THIS country and the H was arrested and now they have no contact until the court date. In the meantime, she's changed the locks and Sfa has set her up with a marital counselor.
In r's case, do they have marital counseling in the country she lives in. Can the law enforcement intervene? I know in my home country, the law is pretty solid against DV, but the cops are corrupt and I wouldn't trust them to do the right thing in a domestic situation. Also, there's a stigma to involving a law enforcement agency in a situation such as this.
The other questions are: Is is common behavior for R's H? She certainly hasn't posted anything like this before. The A bit has her H REALLY angry, I can relate to his anger, but NOT HIS VIOLENCE. It seems like he just erupted suddenly this morning.
What is her recourse here? Is she threatened that he will hit her again? If so, how to prevent this? Does she leave with the kids? Does she ask him to leave?
It's a delicate issue... Also, from her last few posts it seems like she has HIS family around and that they are not her biggest fans right now. So where and how will she get support?
Only she can answer these questions....
Physical violence is wrong. That said, it does fall in 2 categories: My friend in the U.S. felt threatened as if H would strangle her to death. That's slightly different from being struck once. Should that be tolerated? No! Because if he gets away with the hitting once, he'll do it again. That's what happened with my friend here.
R's H might have just lost it once and she might not feel like her life is threatened. That said, R's H needs help. Just like SteelersFan. Her H pushed her once too, but she doesn't feel threatened by him that he'd kill her or something. So they have contact and he's done his time in jail for the same and is getting counseling.
R, please post sweetie. Unless you tell us more, we can't help too much. Protect yourself and your children. You're a good person and you don't deserve to be hit even if you cheated.
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