Yeah, I've been very patient. My W even says I've been very gracious on how I've handled the infidelity. I've been mostly calm. I did break down and cry on her the other day. I do get a little needy on her though which I know is counter productive. She needs to be in control and unconciously takes measures to make it that way, She's always felt like she was "rescuing me" me from myself. When we first met I was "a rebel w/out a bank account" I was this "cool/good-looking guy" (which are her words not mine!!) I was looking for a woman of high intelect, and similar values, as well as pleasing to my eye. I got all three!!! Now she's very much a professional woman, While I'm more blue-collar so to speak. But I've been with the same company for 20 years I'm not exactly "unsuccessful". I have made alot of changes that she does acknowledge to be very positive. I'm becoming more "strategic" and "colaborative" which are two traits she currently holds at high value. They are good characteristics overall, so I will continue to develop them regardless of my sitch....
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2*D - 38 W - 37 M - 10 years T - 13 years 2 boys (3 & 6yrs) Bomb - 11/12/06 PA exposed - 3/25/07
