need a little encouragement

[RedHeadWife]

I know. My H never told me all these past years that we were having such huge problems, or that he was so unhappy, that he got to the point of D either!! He still thinks he shouldn't have to tell his "life long partner" how unhappy he was, that I should have known. I am bumping along in my sitch as well, not real sure what he's thinking either -- are we really working this out or is he just pacifying me until he leaves in a month for a whole year???

I still say we really need to just give them their time and space. They need to make the decisions as to what they are going to do in the end. We need for their decisions to come from their heart and be what they really want and not necessarily what we want them to do. I know it's not easy and I guess I don't really know if I'm doing the right thing, therefore am I giving you the right advice? I don't know, but I know if we push, they will turn & run.