If there is still OM sort of in the picture that can muddy things up a bit and add confusion to your wife's perception. The best way to make the picture clearer for her is for you to become the more attractive choise. Make sure you're working out at the gym a lot, losing weight or gaining muscle, dressing and looking hunky, becoming attractive inside as well as outside, feeling great about yourself and at the same time practicing listening and empathy skills with your wife and other female family members. From what I've observed with other woman (and what I personally feel) is a guy who can make a woman feel special is quite irrisistible. So work on becoming the kind of guy ANY woman would be thrilled to be with.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
