DDC,

For me personally, I can articulate my words better on paper then verbally.

For example it took me over six months to be able to say the words "I Love You" to my Husband. I just choked. I had no problem writing them down.

I think that when we actually say things out loud, especially feelings, we become vulnerable.

Your wife has to keep checking that the coast is clear and that she is feeling "safe" give her time.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.