For those still awake during my trials and tribulation an update........
Today we met with our friends over from Florida and the day started great. I get a text at 9 this morning telling me to get over there to give son a bath.
Had breakfast, tea and gave the bath then we left to the meet.
In the car on the way W talked a lot and said that we get on so well but she just cannot see me as her other half. Also she said that when Dave gets back obviously I cannot spend as much time with her and Sam as I have been!!! ALSO she said that davedick has called her every day as he is homesick over in Oz and was going to book an early flight home....she told him he can't!!
She does have on her mobile over 50 text messages from davedick saved all professing undying love and how he can't wait to see her again. Also one interesting one dated 3 weeks ago saying he was sorry if he was trying to move too fast and that he would not talk about getting a place together. Also he has asked my W to remind my son who he is GGGRrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!
All day it has been like the clock has turned back, all our old phrases and jokes came out and again she said if only I was the same with Sam when we were together as I am now.
We had a really good day and I don't want to over- analyse so I am just grateful for the best day I have had in 3 months +
Hhhhmmm! picked up son today and no beer? just a bottle of wine!!!
Had good chat again but no R talk from me! She was asking where I was again on Sunday 'Did you have dinner at your brothers?' to which I replied 'no just a group of friends'. The sense of curiosity was overpowering!
She did again say 'how would I feel when D1ck is back'! and I did say that is her business.
Flying! or diving! the up and down is so difficult, she is so curious as to what I am doing and we are going shopping tomorrow lunchtime for bedding so I can have a room at my house for Sam!
At least she is curious, that sounds like a positive. I agree that you don't have to tell her anymore than suits you. I'm not big on the whole "mystery" thing for me, but that's b/c I'm pretty much a cards on the table kind of woman. That being said, I don't offer too much info either. What you did sounded perfect.
I know this is life on the razor blade for you and I'm really sorry. Enjoy all that you can with davedick gone.
HA!!! I hear you! anything for me. Ok, maybe not ANYTHING!!!
I think you are doing the right thing, you are GAL! sometimes you feel you are slipping back, but you are doing great. Keep coming here and letting us know how things are going and if she makes you mad. Tell us not her! well to a point.
wife of an addict M 39 H 39 D18 D 16 Together 19 M17
On Tuesday, we went shopping together at lunchtime to get a few bits for our son's new 'big boys bed' at her house.
She knew I was going out that night as our frineds were going back to Florida next day.
In the afternoon she sent text on her way home from work saying that she had had to pull over as she felt dizzy and was I around to pick up Sam?
I said unfortunately not. I then (stupidly??) had a pang of guilt and text her to say 'If you want I can come round to take him out of your hair for a while as you are feeling rough' she replied 'if you like' I replied 'no you decide' and she said 'ok'
I did go round and she seemed fine.
Point is I feel that I have been 'hooked' and bowed to her wishes. Have now not spoken/text since I saw her on Tuesday
Ok, you feel you got hooked. You can't do anything about this time, except learn for next time.
I know it sux. I'm sorry you feel used. Somethimes it seems like no matter which path we take, the results aren't what we'd hoped for. So, keep to the high road and if you don't have one keep a journal of the "positives". It's way to easy to focus on the negative stuff and then we miss what's working.
Mix it up!!! 