Stardog,
Begin DB from this point on. Is she willing to have a R talk with you? Can you two talk about expectations in the M, and try to fulfill them? Read or review Divorce Remedy by Michelle Weiner-Davis.

You sound like you're willing to change some behaviors that created distance in the M.

CL

CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching