Thank you all for the nice responses to my last post. I appreciate your support as always!
There have been a few times in the past week when my H has said something that makes me realize that they really don’t remember the fog they were in. I knew that only my friends here on the BB would be able to relate.
We went to a Newcomers Night for a new church last Sunday. We did introductions and when it got to H, he shared about his strict religious upbringing and how his family turned away from him for his divorce. But in the midst of the story he said that we met in 93, got married in 96 and have been happily married ever since.
Then the other day, we were talking on the phone and fantasizing about moving to another state (which I doubt we will really ever do) but I said that I like the idea of getting away from some people at work. And he asked, “like who?” in a totally honest question – not sarcastic or defensive. So I said, my old people (my previous department) and your old people and left it at that. He just said “oh” and we moved on. Can he really not think that I’d like us to get away from OW? Or maybe to him its such a non-issue that it doesn’t cross his mind? Either way, end of topic for a while.
Things continue to go well. I did forget to add last time that his cell phone is still always hidden away and most times on silent. H has been having a lot of heart to hearts with his one brother and sister and has made the comment that “a person’s perception is their reality”. Someday I’d like to use this to my advantage and say that when the cell phone is hidden away, my perception is that there are calls or messsages that he doesn’t want me to know about. But, I’m not ready to go there yet.
That’s about it. The boys are great. Littlest one is getting into everything and is learning to shake his head “yes” and “no” and is using them accurately so it is fun communicating with him a bit. Now we just need to get him into his crib…
