Theoden, your advice is amazing and on the money. I am both sorry and glad that you are at on at this site. You have and are helping me through this sitch. Without this site and the support from people like you I would be a hopeless man. I pray for you and your sitch. Please keep the advice and encouragement coming my way.
As for the in-laws I have not tried to turn them on their daughter but they see how decieved their daughter currently is. The crazy thing is before all this occured my relationship with them wasn't that strong. I have leaned on them for advice and have really gotten close to them. It also helps that my girls love them dearly, so I like being around my in-laws not only for myself but for my girls. I hear your warning and will tread lightly with telling them about our sitch.
Thanks again for the kick in the a$$, I keep thinking that she is going to walk into the room and she will snap back into reality.
She is going to C tonight and I have class, so I will probably not see her again today. She did call this morning, she typically does before she goes about her day....I know I should not answer everytime she calls..... be mysterious....(sorry talking to myself) Hopefully her counseler can answer her question on how you try to build a relationship when one member has never loved the other, wishfull thinking. What a load of crap, I know this is how my wife feels rightnow and I respect that, but what a load of crap.
I mentioned above that my SIL told my wife that she was acting like she did when she was with her ex-bf. Well here is some more details about that sitch.... That R was probably the darkest point in my wifes life and she was in an verbally and emotionally abusive R. She ran from everyone her sisters, parents and most importantly God. She was trapped in a sitch that she new was bad. She kept that up for 2 years before she came back home to her parents and a year after that she meet me. (I know I cannot listen to this crap, bear with me) She is now saying that she married my out of her insecurities, I gave her all the things that she was told that she could never be or get....she says that she manipulated me and tricked herself into thinking that she loved me... fast forward 7 years and two kids later, here I am. She is just realizing this and that I do not make her passionette blah blah blah.....
Here is to keeping my head up and validating the STUFF that comes out of my W mouth.
As for GAL'ing: - I start softball in a few weeks. - I am making efforts to hang with friends more often. - I have been running 12+ miles a week the last 3 months. - I am currently down 32 pounds, I am at my HS weight. - Because of the weightloss I am thinking about buying a new spring wardrobe. - I am traveling to the west coast at the end of the month and have plans to go a baseball game with, get this, my W childhood bestfriend husband. I'm just getting to know him, he is a good dude. - I have had some really good times with the girls the last couple of days.
Thanks again everyone for your support. I'll try to check back tonight. That reminds me, my W came into the room the other day while I was on this site so I quickly minimized the browser. She started to question me.... I did ask why she cared what I was up to, she just kept up the concerned questions coming. Don't worry my secert status as a Divorce Buster was not blown.
