CL, I think he just wants me to sit at home while he carries on w/ his life. I say this b/c when I do make plans for just the two us and arrange for a sitter most of the time he will say no. He will do more if it's a family thing w/ the girls.
I agree w/ that he will only probably get more clever in hiding things from me now that I've put the pressure on. I was also told that it is a good thing to every once in a while stand up for yourself in order for H to start showing some respect. Lat week when i gave him the no doormat anymore speech and how i am a much better woman than she a single person who could get any other single she wanted, my H's body language and his reaction was like if i was turning him on (self assurance was appealing to him). It was weird but it like he almost was agreeing w/ what i said about the OW?
My H is the typical hispanic macho man in every sense of the word!
