I know I am being argumentative but it really wasn't his HSP so much as his intolerance and complaining, right? What if rather than not understanding you, he had been in awe of you? "That is so great that you can block things out and just relax." Wasn't it his judgment of you and unappreciation of your talents that was the problem?
I think you are making a key point Fearless. It's not the differences alone that cause the problems but how we manage the differences. Like you said we can look at the differences with awe or with intolerance. So MJ, don't rule out someone who doesn't have the teflon-coating, just make sure they respect you for who you are. Granted the "oppposites attract" phenomenon does not usual work out in the end, but those R do tend to be fun, passionate, exciting, so..... LFL
