Come on Mojo, I never thought you'd be one for throwing ABSOLUTES out there!
I know, I know. But it wasn't just the case in my marriage that my H's emotional HSP was in conflict with my Teflon. His physical HSP drove me nutZ and vice versa. He was constantly noticing minor variations in brands of coffee, complaining about me wiggling my foot in his line of vision, bringing a pleasant hike to a sudden end because he was itchy etc. He couldn't understand how I could possibly relax and read a book if the living room was slightly messy or the kids were being noisy or he was feeling hungry etc. We really were an odd, unhappy couple.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver