I am currently posting under MLC, but know am confused if its really MLC or just an affair mostly due to H's insecurities.
I have read over and over about GAling, but what if in my case GALing only makes my stich WORSE? I do it now sporadically, but this infuriates him more and H goes and punishes me by going out and staying out all night (again).
Seven months ago my H states he wants a D and was tired of house,me,the kids and everything and just wanted to be alone. I had OW suspicions, but it was not discovered until this past Thanksgiving. I DB and did 180's my but off and started not reacting to his temper tantrums. The atmosphere at home has drastically changed and the fights have really subsided. At the beginging I thought ok, I will not demand anything from him as to stop seeing the OW for now, i thought it was to soon. Now, H has been staying at home more often and i haven't seen any "physical" evidence of a PA since November. I think he might be getting tired of her somehow b/c this past weekend H made yer another commment about her,but instead said " I am done w/ her she complains too much?" I coudln't get him to explain any further, but I am assuming she is putting the pressure on him big time and he is not liking that.
So, in turn I emailed him today and told him (I feel I have waited long enough) that if he really wanted to stay in this so called marriage that he needed to stop seeing her, emailing and severe all ties w/her. I said I have grown for the better in the last 6 months and that he has become a man I did not want to be with right now. WHat happened to man I use to know w/ morals and who once said to his buddy that he could never leave his wife just based on wanting to be w/another woman.
Who here has waited the longest for their SO to get off the fence???????????????????????????????????????????????????????? The past week when I finally started to put my feet down i said I was not going to his doormat and that I was not waiting any longer that I was ready to sign the D papers he so much wanted from the beginning. Boy, what a change? He started calling me sweetie and honey, so out of character for him and even caught himself and why did I just call you that? I started to go out more w/out him and he started to accuse me of cheating. Galing does not work for our stich! He was staying at home, but as soon as I started going out he started to do the same.When I distance myself ,he does the same. Whatever I do he does tenfold!
Can someone tell me if just being there and being nicey nice and NOT distancing works? Am I doing right by putting on the pressure as I think the OW is too?
