Well the weekend went pretty good. We went to a garden show on Saturday (something I wanted to do, don't think H was all that thrilled about it but he humoured me - lol)
Sunday we went out for breakfast with some friends and then spent a couple of hours doing yardwork together. We both commented on how nice it was to be working together again in the yard
I thanked my H later that evening for a really nice weekend and he seemed to appreciate it
Now, my concern ...
A friend of his has invited him to his place next Saturday for "fight night" - a bunch of the guys are getting together to watch a pay--per-view show (kick boxing and stuff) on TV. Normally I wouldn't be concerned at all about this however, his friend is into smoking dope and I am a little tense about the rest of his friends, including my H, going down that path. I know what you will all say "I can't be responsible for what others do" however, right now my H and I are at a very vulnerable point in this relationship. We are testing the waters with boundaries, discussing the same with C (who we don't see for another two weeks - yikes!!) and dealing with anti-depressants, etc. etc. so the thought of him smoking pot freaks me out at this point. Regardless of the fact its illegal, we all know so many people do it. Personally I have no use for it, never have, but my H used to smoke it occasionally when we first got together and off and on throughout our R. Now, I guess the thing I do have going for me is that he drives for a living and they can take random drug tests and if they determined he had it in his system - automatically he would lose his job. However, there are so many jobs around here that it doesn't really bother him
Is there anyway I can approach the subject without sounding like I am trying to control his life? I am just concerned about the drugs he is already taking and the influence this might have on him and us at the stage we are at, which I feel is somewhat sensitive right now
We are doing well but we do have to tread lightly
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
