Okay, first some (((((hugs))))) and for good measure, a kiss on the forehead.
You might not know it now, but you have taken the hardest first steps. And now for a gentle 2x4 - this is NOT your fault - remember you didn't walk away - you tried - you hung in there and fought! It cannot be your fault.
I'm with Jeff - and let me take it a little further. In your most recent posts, I've picked up a lot more color about the kind of "man" you are dealing with in your STBXH. Fact is, he isn't a man at all. How could he be? Real men don't run from their problems...real men are strong and supportive in the face of adversity. Real men aren't spineless wusses like you have on your hands. Do you really want a guy like that in your life? What you've got there is a little child.
If he seems happy - he's not. If he seems like he has changed - he has not. It is a matter of time - he'll figure it out. Time to let him go - there are better men out there.
Nic, you have to remember what an inspiration you have been to folks on this board. Heck, by the number of posts you have, you must be approaching moderator or something. You have shown incredible courage in trying to save your M. Now, just slightly shift the focus - apply that same courage to yourself - go teach somewhere else and bring the kids along! I think that is great.
Anyway, hope you are feeling better today. What a great time of year to be reborn...Easter. And remember how easy it will be - with all of your friends on here pulling for you....
Hang in there!
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
