Nothing new to report really. We had a great Holiday - we were able to start the healing between my family and W. Life is good.
Looks like we will be finally selling the old house - went under agreement about a week ago. Amen, cash was getting tight!
So, we're a family totally and still working toward something great. Hard to believe I was finding out more icky things about the OM almost exactly a year ago - and I was preparing my first Paul and Anne 180. These days, its all about not becoming complacent and too comfortable. Keeping the GAL stuff gets tougher - seems there is never enough time - but it is important that you make the time for it (such as going to the gym - which last night I told her last night lets me channel my stress - she liked).
I am encouraged by all the folks in piecing now - keep rockin'!
That's it for now!
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
What a change from a year ago. I was dropping the Paul and Anne 180 - H-Bombs going off like crazy. GAL'g my arse off and living life for me.
Today, still living a life centered around my happiness - and pushing it outward toward my family and it's paying dividends. Always a work in process....
FINALLY closed on the sale of "old" house last week. Whew, it was going to get really tight.
Just spent a couple days away with the family - off skiing the White Mountains. All good as WAW and I continue to tighten the bond between us. Tonight we pawn the kids off on the grandparents so we can...hmmm...
Continuing to lurk. JustMe, if you are reading - good to see you posting again - thanks again for all the help you gave me. To those that are lucky enough to get a post from JM, listen up! There's good stuff in there. Wouldn't be here without yours and other's advice.
Onward and upward...
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
Thank you Sven, I appreciate it. I've been on the receiving end of some wonderful advice from you as well. I love how you've grown as a result of this experience.
I wish more people saw your thread and knew your story. You didn't sacrifice yourself for the marriage. You focused on improving and remaking yourself and brought your wife and family in to share it with you. You didn't conform to win your wife back, you drew her back with your own transformation. It's very inspirational.
I'm glad things are working out for you. It couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Sven, So gald to see everything is still going great for you and your family. Take Care!!
Love, Lisa
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
Just wanted to thank you for referring "For Men Only". Awesome book. I bought the audio version and listened on my ipod. There were a few things in there that really made sense. After all I've learned these past few years, I still get surprised at how much there still is understand. Never too late!
Thanks Again,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
You're welcome. Every now and then we come across those little books that are short and sweet - FMO and FWO are great books to have in the toolbox....
I just realised I haven't journaled in a month - been lurking and chiming in when appropriate. Life continues to be good - we seem to forge new trails now and then, and sometimes end up on old trails as well. We spend more time looking around this time. Little things that you can take for granted. Example, yesterday I was doing yard work when W came outside and sat down at our patio set. I finished up and sat with her - we watched as the boys were hitting baseballs and the dog was chasing them. W moves over to me and sits on my lap and we just watch the clouds roll in.
So S8 and I quickly went for a motorcycle ride before the rain started!
But, really it is about taking the time out and appreciating it all. We're alive. We breathe. A lesson learned to not forget that. And you know what? Had things not worked out between W and I, I still would have been okay.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
But, really it is about taking the time out and appreciating it all. We're alive. We breathe. A lesson learned to not forget that. And you know what? Had things not worked out between W and I, I still would have been okay.
I think it's when we really deeply realize that is when it really works out for us. It's just that we realize it in stages.
