If you want your M to work out, you are going to have to constantly remind yourself that you CAN'T "go down the same path" again. You are going to have to get rid of your resentment at some point, so are you going to do it w/ her or w/o her? My sitch is a lot of the same resentment/anger/growing apart over a good deal of years. It's going to take a lot to overcome that. I keep thinking "It took quite awhile for H to get where he's at now (or when he dropped the D bomb), so it's going to take him awhile to get back where he needs to be too." By that, I mean patience, love, kindness, etc. is your best medicine. You cannot rush things. Been there, done that, and it don't work!!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
