Thanks Phoenix. We had a good weekend for the most part. D6's birthday is coming up so lots of shopping for the entire family - W even had me pick out clothes for her and modeled a few of them for me to help her decide. She then insisted that we buy clothes for me and helped me pick them out. Also ended up buying a piano that we were planning to buy as a Christmas gift before the bomb dropped. All this was the good stuff.
The realtor (a close friend of hers) came by in the afternoon and we went and looked at houses. I tried to ignore the repeated reference to "my" house - (we are buying it together), but it was hard. Also, the realtor was joking and playing with W a fair amount (my daughters have told me that he is mommy's new boyfriend) and my W gave him a big hug at the end of the tour. That was really hard to stomach (I don't think she has had any PAs) given that she has said that we need to work on being friends before much physical contact - I initiate the occasional hug which has never been returned. We had agreed to talk more about being friends, but I see us getting back into this running around doing this and that when we are together at the end of which she is too tired to do anything but collapse into bed. She has steadfastly refused to go to counseling - the one we tried some 4 years ago was a disaster. I am just afraid, that after having come this long, we are going to go down the same path, and my resentment is going to cause me to go back in my shell - any advice from people that been there, done that?
